Pretendbians was a blog created in direct response to the rape culture concept of the Cotton Ceiling. The Cotton Ceiling – developed by transsexual porn star Drew Deveaux – posits that Lesbians are bigots for not consider transwomen as sexual partners.
This is rape culture. It is disgusting and abusive. It is a weapon used against lesbians to shame us for our sexuality. Transgender Advocates are pushing rape culture when they support the Cotton Ceiling as a discussion. BTW, they continue to do so.
The blog had been inactive for some time because I was pretty sure the point had been made. Indeed, even creeps like Savannah Garmon had backed off of the Cotton Ceiling. Accordingly, I moved the blog to a non-Wordpress server for herstory. I am a busy person, and as Morrissey said, this joke isn’t funny any more.
Transwomen, apparently not content to leave well enough alone, launched a DDOS attack against the blog and its server, knocking it offline. Transgender women then claimed that WordPress suspended the blog.
That was a lie. This blog was not on WordPress at the time of the attack. It is now, however.
It is likely that Anonymous launched the DDOS attack, as apparently they warned they were going to “get me.” Yey boys. What a victory.
Or maybe it was one of these people. Who cares? All I know is that it was some creepy dude who thinks lesbians should never say “I can see your dick.”
You give respect, you get it. You give disrespect, you get disrespect. It’s all up to you.
– the management
We aren’t 18 year old boys, sir.
Posted in Fact
Tagged Cotton Ceiling, DDOS, Denial-of-service attack, Feminism, Gay Lesbian and Bisexual, Lesbian, Trans woman, transgender, Transgendered, Twitter, Wordpress
One of the benefits of being an openly horrible feminist blogger is the opportunity to correspond with Women and Lesbians from all over the world (well, mostly the US, Canada, Australia and Europe, although I have regular readers in Saudi Arabia and India). I really do enjoy this, as it makes up for the regular deluge of death and rape threats I get from the peace-loving Trans folks and their cis allies. One of the most popular topics of these valued messages is how awful it is be a Lesbian trying to get a date in this Post Modern world. Continue reading
Over the past year, I have read some – certainly not all – of the speculation about Pretendbians and why it exists.
“Cathy Brennan hates men. Cathy Brennan is secretly attracted to men. Cathy Brennan is a man.”
You all sound like the Adults in Peanuts speaking. Also, make up your fucking minds.
A reminder: the reason Pretendbians exists is because of the utter lack of respect transwomen (and, let’s be honest, their female “allies”) have shown for lesbians.
Without the Cotton Ceiling, there would be no Pretendbians.
Without the endless demands that lesbians consider males as sexual partners, there would be no Pretendbians.
Transwomen, I just ran across a press release for a dating website FOR FEMALES. You can read about it here. This lesbian dating website is not FOR YOU. Because transwomen ARE NOT FEMALE.
Respect that. For once, respect that.
Lesbians are female homosexuals.
We don’t have a penis. We don’t have balls. We don’t have male socialization. We aren’t eunuchs.
We are women.
We love women.
We desire intimate relations with OTHER WOMEN.
Transwomen, respect that. You will never be women, but you certainly can be decent human beings.
The goal of “trans” whacktivists is to ERASE “woman” from reality
I found this utterly disgusting quote on the anti-feminist blog “fword”:
“Feminists more than anybody else should know that being a woman is not about socially constructed gender roles. And it’s not about a uterus or menstruation or even the absence of a Y chromosome, because plenty of women don’t have a uterus, don’t menstruate, and some women do have a Y chromosome (XXY is just one of the many configurations possible.) If ‘woman’ can (or should) be defined, it is by subconscious gender, that part of your id which knows who you are and would still know if you were a brain in a jar. That can’t be policed. Whether or not it would be desirable, reasonable or legal to try to exclude trans women, it’s not possible. Or at least, not without looking very much like the same patriarchy that I thought we were overthrowing.”
Think about it, carefully: “If ‘woman’ can (or should) be defined, it is by subconscious gender, that part of your id which knows who you are and would still know if you were a brain in a jar.”
Since the 1970s, certain branches of feminism have decried the existence of trans people and painted trans women specifically as infiltrators working on behalf of the patriarchy to destroy women’s spaces. (“TERF” stands for trans-exclusionary radical feminist.) These views treat trans women as less than “real” women and rely on an oddly essentialist understanding of gender (contrary to many other strands of feminism) that holds that gender assignment at birth dictates the “truth” of gender. Self-described radical feminists like Cathy Brennan have dedicated considerable amounts of time and energy to attacking and outing trans women, describing some as “pretendbians” (that is, pretend lesbians) and publicizing their old names and identities in a deliberate attempt to disrupt and endanger their lives. Brennan once went so far as to write to the UN to argue that legal protections for gender identity and gender expression would directly harm cisgender women.
[HOW DARE I WRITE A LETTER????????????????]
Trans women and their allies will jump over a thousand lesbians’ dead bodies in a rush to deny the entitled, male privileged attitudes that current prominent trans women in the activist community inevitably come with. Yes, it’s so very very important that these very special trans women are still allowed to make misogynistic, bigoted assessments about lesbians’ sexuality, AS ALL MALES DO, that it does not matter that lesbians’ sexuality is trampled over or invisibilized or that lesbians’ voices are SHOUTED OVER and IGNORED in the process.
gee… I wonder why that might be?
– Tobi Hill-Meyer
– Julia Serano
– Ida Hammer
– Natalie Reed
– Twiggy Danger
– Char the Butcher
– Joelle Ruby Ryan
– Indi Edwards
– Jamie “Brynn Cassidy West”
– Allyson “Asshat” Clarke
– Morgan “Cotton Ceiling” Page
– Katy Berger Tremaine
– Lucy Paw/Harriet Vane
– Gemma Seymour-Amper
– Katrina Rose
– Valerie Keefe
– Drew Deveaux
– Annie Danger
– June Day/Angel S.
– Savannah Garmon
– Teresa Ellen Reeves
– Jade Pichette
that’s 22 and I’m sure I didn’t get them all. Feel free to add on to this list. I would simply like people who are on the fence about this issue between trans women vs. lesbians to take a good long look at the trans women who are claiming to be so very oppressed by us terrible lesbians. Would you be just as super sympathetic to a white, heterosexual male trying to get lesbians to fuck him as you would be to the same person who has now “transitioned”?
Also, Jos Truitt.
Posted in Pretendbian
Tagged female, Gay Lesbian and Bisexual, Gender, Gender identity, Indi Edwards, Jos Truitt, Julia Serano, Lesbian, tobi meyer-hill, Trans woman, twiggy danger
Peak Trans was a blog post written by the amazing blogger radicalfeministcrafts in August of 2011. It describes the moment when a previously supportive trans ally becomes “over it.” For radicalfeministcrafts, her peak trans moment, as described in the post (now deleted, RIP) was when she read a blog post by Pretendbian Vexing describing how you must twist your sexual attractions in order to not hurt trans feelings (this foreshadowed the Cotton Ceiling).
Peak Trans: The Tumblr gives you a forum to describe your peak trans moment.
H/T Gay Not Queer for doing this.
And now, without further do do, Peak Trans.
Said in a very laydee like voice whist sipping herbal tea and wearing a modest dress.
What misogynist bullshit to suggest that we should feel guilty for having been born female. As if we’re not made to feel uncomfortable because of it every day!
After spending several months reading trans activists in an attempt to understand exactly what they want from us, I’ve figured some of it out. These observations don’t describe all trans women, merely the ones who drive the pomo/queer studies-influenced transgender activism that dominates the public discourse on this issue.
Trans women activists write with the assumption that the gender-identity based discrimination they face cannot be addressed without erasing sex-based oppression of females. This is completely untrue, as both concerns can be addressed congruently. The question is why trans women take this extreme stance.
Part of it is that they can’t be regarded as female in the sense that biological females are unless female as a sex class ceases to exist. It’s not good enough for them to be considered women, they’ve got to be seen as female in every sense that biological females are. Trans women are deeply threatened by females discussing their physical realities that trans women don’t share. They want us to shut up about everything that doesn’t involve them.
Do you really expect civil discourse after attacking trans women so viciously? How do you expect us to react we you call us mentally ill?
Gender Identity Disorder is very much a mental illness. It causes people to:
— hate their own bodies up to and including a strong urge to cut off perfectly normal, perfectly healthy body parts, take dangerous hormones, etc.;
What triggers Rose Verbena? Glad you asked:
1) Males demanding (under threat of violence) that I call them “she”, “her”, “woman” or “female”;
2) Enablers of males who demand (under threat of violence) that I refer to males as “she”, “her”, “woman” or “female”;
Tell me again how these guys are Lesbians.
Oh, and don’t click on this link unless you wish for your eyes to bleed.
GenderTrender recently highlighted RadFeminist Scorpion and its promotion of anti-lesbianism, most recently through lesbian FanBoy Tobi Hill Meyer!
But who are the “trans women” who routinely make shit up all day to oppress lesbians? (Like this nugget, where a demented “trans woman” named Raven – a heterosexual male in a relationship with a female – claims that I don’t care about rape). Let’s meet one!
From Mary Daly’s Gyn/Ecology (1991 ed.) p.8
A-mazing Amazons must be aware of the male methods of mystification. Elsewhere I have discussed four methods which are essential to the games of the fathers. First, there is erasure of women. (The massacre of millions of women as witches is erased in patriarchal scholarship.) Second, there isreversal. (Adam gives birth to Eve, Zeus to Athena, in patriarchal myth.) Third, there is false polarization. (Male-defined “feminism” is set up against male-defined “sexism” in the patriarchal media.) Fourth, there is divide and conquer. (Token women are trained to kill off feminists in patriarchal professions.)
The trans cult are doing all these things.
1. Erasure: Women’s studies professor, Joelle Ruby Ryan, says the word “female” is outdated and offensive; women are shamed by accusations of ‘transphobia’ and ‘cissexism’ merely for talking about issues pertaining to females such as birth control and reproductive functionality.
2. Reversal: M2T trans call their penises “giant clits”; M2T trans insist that they are women and demand access to female spaces.
3. False polarization: Trans feminism is male-defined feminism. Trans women are male. Cissexism and transphobia are male-defined constructions.
4. Divide and conquer: Females are actively organising with male bodied trans people to shut down spaces created by and for females.
From Ms. Magazine, which cannot be bothered to talk to radical feminists any more.
Posted in Propaganda
Tagged Cisnormativity, Feminism, monica maldonado, Ms. (magazine), People, Trans woman, TransActivity, Transfeminism, transgender, Transgendered, Women
- Radical Feminist: I believe all women should have a right to choose whether they should have an abortion or not. Abortion is a female issue. Continue reading
Same sex, different day
I think it’s ironic that so many “radscum” started out being very sympathetic to “trans women” — oftentimes for decades — before “trans women” themselves so viciously transgressed our boundaries, so abusively dismissed our concerns as women, that we were forced to see them for what they (as a group) actually are: entrenched male haters of women.
As a person who was best friends with a couple of gay transvestites down the hall in college, as a person who TOOK A BEATING and ended up in the ER when doing her best to stop a gay-bashing in progress against a small, delicate gay man, as a person who firmly believes that people should be able to be themselves regardless of cultural norms — as long as they’re not actually hurting others — it took a lot of abuse to open my eyes to the abject hatred some (most?) “trans women” have for natal women.
Now I recognize “trans feminism” for what it is: one more way for men to appropriate, re-direct and abuse women’s energy and power — towards their own ends, of course.
Anonymous asked: Hi. Can you tell me what the perfect trans ally for feminism would look like? Or is there one. If we said “Yes, we are male sexed” but also women, would we be accepted as sisters? Can you describe your vision of an alliance between transgender persons and feminism? If we said “Yes. There are differences between us and cis women” would that be enough?
I can tell you how my trans friends who are allies help females.