Pretendbians was a blog created in direct response to the rape culture concept of the Cotton Ceiling. The Cotton Ceiling – developed by transsexual porn star Drew Deveaux – posits that Lesbians are bigots for not consider transwomen as sexual partners.
This is rape culture. It is disgusting and abusive. It is a weapon used against lesbians to shame us for our sexuality. Transgender Advocates are pushing rape culture when they support the Cotton Ceiling as a discussion. BTW, they continue to do so.
The blog had been inactive for some time because I was pretty sure the point had been made. Indeed, even creeps like Savannah Garmon had backed off of the Cotton Ceiling. Accordingly, I moved the blog to a non-Wordpress server for herstory. I am a busy person, and as Morrissey said, this joke isn’t funny any more.
Transwomen, apparently not content to leave well enough alone, launched a DDOS attack against the blog and its server, knocking it offline. Transgender women then claimed that WordPress suspended the blog.
That was a lie. This blog was not on WordPress at the time of the attack. It is now, however.
It is likely that Anonymous launched the DDOS attack, as apparently they warned they were going to “get me.” Yey boys. What a victory.
Or maybe it was one of these people. Who cares? All I know is that it was some creepy dude who thinks lesbians should never say “I can see your dick.”
You give respect, you get it. You give disrespect, you get disrespect. It’s all up to you.
– the management
We aren’t 18 year old boys, sir.
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Tagged Cotton Ceiling, DDOS, Denial-of-service attack, Feminism, Gay Lesbian and Bisexual, Lesbian, Trans woman, transgender, Transgendered, Twitter, Wordpress
Aaminah Khan, who goes by @jaythenerdkid, describes herself as a “Muslim bipolar bisexual hard-femme intersectionalist geek girl genius.”
She “Loves: PJ (boyfriend) … (the fatherland) & girl stuff.”
She is one of thousands of heterosexual women who have become enamored of porn sick Queer culture and who harass lesbians on social media and in reality. Continue reading
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Tagged Aaminah Khan, Aaminah/Jay, Australia, Facebook, Feminism, Feminist movement, Gay Lesbian and Bisexual, Heterosexuality, jaythenerdkid, Lesbian, LGBT, Sydney, Women only space
The Guardian featured a column today on Lesbophobia! Lesbophobia is misogyny and homophobia leveled at lesbians.
Lesbophobia is something we strongly oppose at Pretendbians! Indeed, it’s the reason we started this blog (Cotton Ceiling).
Jane Czyzselska, who is also editor of a UK magazine for “lesbians” called DIVA, writes passionately in her Guardian column about the everyday erasure Lesbians endure in heteronormative world. Continue reading
One of the benefits of being an openly horrible feminist blogger is the opportunity to correspond with Women and Lesbians from all over the world (well, mostly the US, Canada, Australia and Europe, although I have regular readers in Saudi Arabia and India). I really do enjoy this, as it makes up for the regular deluge of death and rape threats I get from the peace-loving Trans folks and their cis allies. One of the most popular topics of these valued messages is how awful it is be a Lesbian trying to get a date in this Post Modern world. Continue reading
Over the past year, I have read some – certainly not all – of the speculation about Pretendbians and why it exists.
“Cathy Brennan hates men. Cathy Brennan is secretly attracted to men. Cathy Brennan is a man.”
You all sound like the Adults in Peanuts speaking. Also, make up your fucking minds.
A reminder: the reason Pretendbians exists is because of the utter lack of respect transwomen (and, let’s be honest, their female “allies”) have shown for lesbians.
Without the Cotton Ceiling, there would be no Pretendbians.
Without the endless demands that lesbians consider males as sexual partners, there would be no Pretendbians.
Transwomen, I just ran across a press release for a dating website FOR FEMALES. You can read about it here. This lesbian dating website is not FOR YOU. Because transwomen ARE NOT FEMALE.
Respect that. For once, respect that.
Lesbians are female homosexuals.
We don’t have a penis. We don’t have balls. We don’t have male socialization. We aren’t eunuchs.
We are women.
We love women.
We desire intimate relations with OTHER WOMEN.
Transwomen, respect that. You will never be women, but you certainly can be decent human beings.
gee… I wonder why that might be?
– Tobi Hill-Meyer
– Julia Serano
– Ida Hammer
– Natalie Reed
– Twiggy Danger
– Char the Butcher
– Joelle Ruby Ryan
– Indi Edwards
– Jamie “Brynn Cassidy West”
– Allyson “Asshat” Clarke
– Morgan “Cotton Ceiling” Page
– Katy Berger Tremaine
– Lucy Paw/Harriet Vane
– Gemma Seymour-Amper
– Katrina Rose
– Valerie Keefe
– Drew Deveaux
– Annie Danger
– June Day/Angel S.
– Savannah Garmon
– Teresa Ellen Reeves
– Jade Pichette
that’s 22 and I’m sure I didn’t get them all. Feel free to add on to this list. I would simply like people who are on the fence about this issue between trans women vs. lesbians to take a good long look at the trans women who are claiming to be so very oppressed by us terrible lesbians. Would you be just as super sympathetic to a white, heterosexual male trying to get lesbians to fuck him as you would be to the same person who has now “transitioned”?
Also, Jos Truitt.
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Tagged female, Gay Lesbian and Bisexual, Gender, Gender identity, Indi Edwards, Jos Truitt, Julia Serano, Lesbian, tobi meyer-hill, Trans woman, twiggy danger
Hope you are well. I am Cathy Brennan, and I am the public face of Pretendbians, a group blog that arose as a direct result of and in response to the Cotton Ceiling debacle. If you don’t know about the Cotton Ceiling, see this link and this link.
I am the public face of Pretendbians because the issue of gender identity in the GLBT Community is a sensitive one, one that Lesbians are afraid to discuss publicly for fear of being threatened or harassed. You may recall that in August 2011, I was one of the women who wrote a respectful letter asking that the definition of gender identity pushed by transgender groups in the United States be revised so as not to incorporate stereotypes about women into law. You may also recall that for that respectful letter, I was threatened with all sorts of violence. You may recall these things because I sent you messages on Facebook about it, but as you never replied, perhaps you didn’t receive them.
I am the public face of Pretendbians because we need to have a public discussion about the issue of gender identity and how it impacts – negatively – Lesbians and Lesbian Community. I am willing to be this public face because I am able to do so, and I could not live with myself if I didn’t try to impact this conversation in a manner that allowed the Lesbian perspective to be heard.
I understand that you receive threats around this issue – so do I. Male violence is a real and significant reality. Male violence fuels much of how this discussion takes place. Male violence demands capitulation.
I don’t want to capitulate. I also don’t want a sister in struggle to decide how Lesbians should discuss the negative impact of gender identity. Tough times demand tough measures. Being nice about it didn’t work. Being nice – standing alone – never works. You need all tactics to move a conversation.
I am grateful, though, that you have noticed this “war” that’s been raging. Help us end it. The concerns about gender identity raised by Lesbians are real and valid and deserve a wider audience.
Thank you, and be well,
P.S. I am only responsible for Pretendbians. I am not responsible for any other blog you mentioned in your interview.
Do you really expect civil discourse after attacking trans women so viciously? How do you expect us to react we you call us mentally ill?
Gender Identity Disorder is very much a mental illness. It causes people to:
— hate their own bodies up to and including a strong urge to cut off perfectly normal, perfectly healthy body parts, take dangerous hormones, etc.;
GenderTrender recently highlighted RadFeminist Scorpion and its promotion of anti-lesbianism, most recently through lesbian FanBoy Tobi Hill Meyer!
But who are the “trans women” who routinely make shit up all day to oppress lesbians? (Like this nugget, where a demented “trans woman” named Raven – a heterosexual male in a relationship with a female – claims that I don’t care about rape). Let’s meet one!
The words “homosexual” and “heterosexual” and “lesbian” have had meanings since loooooooonnng before these insufferable gender twits were born. Decades, centuries before they slipped out of their mommy’s uterus and took their first breath these words had MEANING. Now they think they can just FORCE everyone else to adopt their derpy, gendery, sloppy, stooopid, faux-new meanings for these words. I think…NOT.
Recently, some of us plain old gays and lesbians have taken to Tumblr to discuss gender identity. One of the blogs on Tumblr that we like best is Gay Not Queer.