Tag Archives: Cotton Ceiling

A Note on Pretendbians

Pretendbians was a blog created in direct response to the rape culture concept of the Cotton Ceiling. The Cotton Ceiling – developed by transsexual porn star Drew Deveaux – posits that Lesbians are bigots for not consider transwomen as sexual partners.

This is rape culture. It is disgusting and abusive. It is a weapon used against lesbians to shame us for our sexuality. Transgender Advocates are pushing rape culture when they support the Cotton Ceiling as a discussion. BTW, they continue to do so.

The blog had been inactive for some time because I was pretty sure the point had been made. Indeed, even creeps like Savannah Garmon had backed off of the Cotton Ceiling. Accordingly, I moved the blog to a non-Wordpress server for herstory. I am a busy person, and as Morrissey said, this joke isn’t funny any more.

Transwomen, apparently not content to leave well enough alone, launched a DDOS attack against the blog and its server, knocking it offline. Transgender women then claimed that WordPress suspended the blog.

That was a lie. This blog was not on WordPress at the time of the attack. It is now, however.

It is likely that Anonymous launched the DDOS attack, as apparently they warned they were going to “get me.” Yey boys. What a victory.

Or maybe it was one of these people. Who cares? All I know is that it was some creepy dude who thinks lesbians should never say “I can see your dick.”

genius

You give respect, you get it. You give disrespect, you get disrespect. It’s all up to you.

– the management

We aren't 18 year old boys, sir.

We aren’t 18 year old boys, sir.

Everyday Lesbophobia at Everyday Lesbophobia

The Guardian featured a column today on Lesbophobia!  Lesbophobia is misogyny and homophobia leveled at lesbians.

Lesbophobia is something we strongly oppose at Pretendbians! Indeed, it’s the reason we started this blog (Cotton Ceiling).

, who is also editor of a UK magazine for “lesbians” called DIVA, writes passionately in her Guardian column about the everyday erasure Lesbians endure in heteronormative world. Continue reading

Stay In Lane

Capture

Over the past year, I have read some – certainly not all – of the speculation about Pretendbians and why it exists.

“Cathy Brennan hates men. Cathy Brennan is secretly attracted to men. Cathy Brennan is a man.”

You all sound like the Adults in Peanuts speaking. Also, make up your fucking minds.

A reminder: the reason Pretendbians exists is because of the utter lack of respect transwomen (and, let’s be honest, their female “allies”) have shown for lesbians.

Without the Cotton Ceiling, there would be no Pretendbians.

Without the endless demands that lesbians consider males as sexual partners, there would be no Pretendbians.

Transwomen, I just ran across a press release for a dating website FOR FEMALES. You can read about it here. This lesbian dating website is not FOR YOU.  Because transwomen ARE NOT FEMALE.

Respect that. For once, respect that.

Lesbians are female homosexuals.

We don’t have a penis. We don’t have balls. We don’t have male socialization.   We aren’t eunuchs.

We are women.

We love women.

We desire intimate relations with OTHER WOMEN.

Transwomen, respect that. You will never be women, but you certainly can be decent human beings.

Try it.

Trans-pocrisy

cotton1 cotton

 

Um, none of this is obligatory, but y’all got some real balls planning conferences about how Actual Lesbians should date y’all when you don’t want to date each other.

“Bitches Love Me” – A Proto-Cotton Ceiling Conversation

MORE HERE.

 

Jade Pichette on the Cotton Ceiling

jadepichette talks about the Cotton Ceiling while lying in bed and playing electronic music.

Jade – You’re a guy.

Keep hitting that wall. That cotton “panty” wall.

“Cotton being panties, you might make out with us, you might flirt with us, you might allow us in your spaces, but there’s that wall that gets hit.”

NO THIS ISN’T RAPEY AT ALL.

PS – It’s double entendre.

Peak Trans: The Musical

Peak Trans was a blog post written by the amazing blogger radicalfeministcrafts in August of 2011. It describes the moment when a previously supportive trans ally becomes “over it.” For radicalfeministcrafts, her peak trans moment, as described in the post (now deleted, RIP) was when she read a blog post by Pretendbian Vexing describing how you must twist your sexual attractions in order to not hurt trans feelings (this foreshadowed the Cotton Ceiling).

Peak Trans: The Tumblr gives you a forum to describe your peak trans moment.

H/T Gay Not Queer for doing this.

And now, without further do do, Peak Trans.

Dan Savage is DTF the Trans Men!

Dear Julie Bindel

Hope you are well. I am Cathy Brennan, and I am the public face of Pretendbians, a group blog that arose as a direct result of and in response to the Cotton Ceiling debacle. If you don’t know about the Cotton Ceiling, see this link and this link.

I am the public face of Pretendbians because the issue of gender identity in the GLBT Community is a sensitive one, one that Lesbians are afraid to discuss publicly for fear of being threatened or harassed. You may recall that in August 2011, I was one of the women who wrote a respectful letter asking that the definition of gender identity pushed by transgender groups in the United States be revised so as not to incorporate stereotypes about women into law. You may also recall that for that respectful letter, I was threatened with all sorts of violence. You may recall these things because I sent you messages on Facebook about it, but as you never replied, perhaps you didn’t receive them.

I am the public face of Pretendbians because we need to have a public discussion about the issue of gender identity and how it impacts – negatively – Lesbians and Lesbian Community. I am willing to be this public face because I am able to do so, and I could not live with myself if I didn’t try to impact this conversation in a manner that allowed the Lesbian perspective to be heard.

I understand that you receive threats around this issue – so do I. Male violence is a real and significant reality. Male violence fuels much of how this discussion takes place. Male violence demands capitulation.

I don’t want to capitulate. I also don’t want a sister in struggle to decide how Lesbians should discuss the negative impact of gender identity. Tough times demand tough measures. Being nice about it didn’t work. Being nice – standing alone – never works. You need all tactics to move a conversation.

I am grateful, though, that you have noticed this “war” that’s been raging. Help us end it. The concerns about gender identity raised by Lesbians are real and valid and deserve a wider audience.

Thank you, and be well,

Cathy Brennan

P.S. I am only responsible for Pretendbians. I am not responsible for any other blog you mentioned in your interview

Can we please get over the idea that lesbians owe it to trans women to consider them as sex partners? Really.

A Radical TransFeminist

I’ve been overwhelmed and delighted by the reaction to Significant Othering: Attraction Down The Privilege Gradient. It seems to have gotten most of its attention on Facebook, with over 200 shares, which makes me happy because it means that people are engaging with it on an individual level.

Now that it’s a few weeks on, I’d like to come back to the subject with a roundup of responses. One of the downsides of conversations taking place on Facebook is that they’re taking place in isolation, so part of the idea is to bring some of the threads back together with this post.

View original post 2,390 more words

I’m Gonna Make You Love Me

We dedicate this to all our Cotton Ceiling Pretendbians! We all hope you had a good conference!

It’s your song!

Drew Deveaux

Cotton Ceiling …

Cotton Ceiling …