A Note on Pretendbians

Pretendbians was a blog created in direct response to the rape culture concept of the Cotton Ceiling. The Cotton Ceiling – developed by transsexual porn star Drew Deveaux – posits that Lesbians are bigots for not consider transwomen as sexual partners.

This is rape culture. It is disgusting and abusive. It is a weapon used against lesbians to shame us for our sexuality. Transgender Advocates are pushing rape culture when they support the Cotton Ceiling as a discussion. BTW, they continue to do so.

The blog had been inactive for some time because I was pretty sure the point had been made. Indeed, even creeps like Savannah Garmon had backed off of the Cotton Ceiling. Accordingly, I moved the blog to a non-Wordpress server for herstory. I am a busy person, and as Morrissey said, this joke isn’t funny any more.

Transwomen, apparently not content to leave well enough alone, launched a DDOS attack against the blog and its server, knocking it offline. Transgender women then claimed that WordPress suspended the blog.

That was a lie. This blog was not on WordPress at the time of the attack. It is now, however.

It is likely that Anonymous launched the DDOS attack, as apparently they warned they were going to “get me.” Yey boys. What a victory.

Or maybe it was one of these people. Who cares? All I know is that it was some creepy dude who thinks lesbians should never say “I can see your dick.”

You give respect, you get it. You give disrespect, you get disrespect. It’s all up to you.

– the management

We aren’t 18 year old boys, sir.

Avery Edison

Avery Edison is a heterosexual man who thinks he is a lesbian. He is also a stand-up ‘comedian’ so maybe this is a bad joke.

Here is Avery being “funny”:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIRlGmDlKVU

Obsessive Heterosexual Harasses Lesbian Activist

Aaminah Khan, who goes by @jaythenerdkid, describes herself as a “Muslim bipolar bisexual hard-femme intersectionalist geek girl genius.”

She  “Loves: PJ (boyfriend) … (the fatherland) & girl stuff.”

She is one of thousands of heterosexual women who have become enamored of porn sick Queer culture and who harass lesbians on social media and in reality.

Everyday Lesbophobia at Everyday Lesbophobia

The Guardian featured a column today on Lesbophobia!  Lesbophobia is misogyny and homophobia leveled at lesbians.

Lesbophobia is something we strongly oppose at Pretendbians! Indeed, it’s the reason we started this blog (Cotton Ceiling).

Jane Czyzselska, who is also editor of a UK magazine for “lesbians” called DIVA, writes passionately in her Guardian column about the everyday erasure Lesbians endure in heteronormative world.

Dating in the PoMo World

One of the benefits of being an openly horrible feminist blogger is the opportunity to correspond with Women and Lesbians from all over the world (well, mostly the US, Canada, Australia and Europe, although I have regular readers in Saudi Arabia and India). I really do enjoy this, as it makes up for the regular deluge of death and rape threats I get from the peace-loving Trans folks and their cis allies. One of the most popular topics of these valued messages is how awful it is be a Lesbian trying to get a date in this Post Modern world.

Stay In Lane

Over the past year, I have read some – certainly not all – of the speculation about Pretendbians and why it exists.

“Cathy Brennan hates men. Cathy Brennan is secretly attracted to men. Cathy Brennan is a man.”

You all sound like the Adults in Peanuts speaking. Also, make up your fucking minds.

A reminder: the reason Pretendbians exists is because of the utter lack of respect transwomen (and, let’s be honest, their female “allies”) have shown for lesbians.

Without the Cotton Ceiling, there would be no Pretendbians.

Without the endless demands that lesbians consider males as sexual partners, there would be no Pretendbians.

Transwomen, I just ran across a press release for a dating website FOR FEMALES. You can read about it here. This lesbian dating website is not FOR YOU.  Because transwomen ARE NOT FEMALE.

Respect that. For once, respect that.

Lesbians are female homosexuals.

We don’t have a penis. We don’t have balls. We don’t have male socialization.   We aren’t eunuchs.

We are women.

We love women.

We desire intimate relations with OTHER WOMEN.

Transwomen, respect that. You will never be women, but you certainly can be decent human beings.

Try it.

Who Can Be A Lesbian?

UNLESS YOU ARE A MAN.

The goal of “trans” whacktivists is to ERASE “woman” from reality

The goal of “trans” whacktivists is to ERASE “woman” from reality

I found this utterly disgusting quote on the anti-feminist blog “fword”:

“Feminists more than anybody else should know that being a woman is not about socially constructed gender roles. And it’s not about a uterus or menstruation or even the absence of a Y chromosome, because plenty of women don’t have a uterus, don’t menstruate, and some women do have a Y chromosome (XXY is just one of the many configurations possible.) If ‘woman’ can (or should) be defined, it is by subconscious gender, that part of your id which knows who you are and would still know if you were a brain in a jar. That can’t be policed. Whether or not it would be desirable, reasonable or legal to try to exclude trans women, it’s not possible. Or at least, not without looking very much like the same patriarchy that I thought we were overthrowing.”

Think about it, carefully: “If ‘woman’ can (or should) be defined, it is by subconscious gender, that part of your id which knows who you are and would still know if you were a brain in a jar.”

Patriarchy’s Tools

Trans women and their allies will jump over a thousand lesbians’ dead bodies in a rush to deny the entitled, male privileged attitudes that current prominent trans women in the activist community inevitably come with.  Yes, it’s so very very important that these very special trans women are still allowed to make misogynistic, bigoted assessments about lesbians’ sexuality, AS ALL MALES DO, that it does not matter that lesbians’ sexuality is trampled over or invisibilized or that lesbians’ voices are SHOUTED OVER and IGNORED in the process.

Most Trans ASSHOLES are WHITE, “FORMERLY” HETEROSEXUAL MALES

gee… I wonder why that might be?

– Tobi Hill-Meyer

– Julia Serano

– Ida Hammer

– Natalie Reed

– Twiggy Danger

– Char the Butcher

– Joelle Ruby Ryan

– Indi Edwards

– Jamie “Brynn Cassidy West”

– Allyson “Asshat” Clarke

– Morgan “Cotton Ceiling” Page

– Katy Berger Tremaine

– Lucy Paw/Harriet Vane

– Gemma Seymour-Amper

– Katrina Rose

– Valerie Keefe

– Drew Deveaux

– Annie Danger

– June Day/Angel S.

– Savannah Garmon

– Teresa Ellen Reeves

– Jade Pichette

that’s 22 and I’m sure I didn’t get them all. Feel free to add on to this list. I would simply like people who are on the fence about this issue between trans women vs. lesbians to take a good long look at the trans women who are claiming to be so very oppressed by us terrible lesbians. Would you be just as super sympathetic to a white, heterosexual male trying to get lesbians to fuck him as you would be to the same person who has now “transitioned”?

Source.

Also, Jos Truitt.

Dear Julie Bindel

Hope you are well. I am Cathy Brennan, and I am the public face of Pretendbians, a group blog that arose as a direct result of and in response to the Cotton Ceiling debacle. If you don’t know about the Cotton Ceiling, see this link and this link.

I am the public face of Pretendbians because the issue of gender identity in the GLBT Community is a sensitive one, one that Lesbians are afraid to discuss publicly for fear of being threatened or harassed. You may recall that in August 2011, I was one of the women who wrote a respectful letter asking that the definition of gender identity pushed by transgender groups in the United States be revised so as not to incorporate stereotypes about women into law. You may also recall that for that respectful letter, I was threatened with all sorts of violence. You may recall these things because I sent you messages on Facebook about it, but as you never replied, perhaps you didn’t receive them.

I am the public face of Pretendbians because we need to have a public discussion about the issue of gender identity and how it impacts – negatively – Lesbians and Lesbian Community. I am willing to be this public face because I am able to do so, and I could not live with myself if I didn’t try to impact this conversation in a manner that allowed the Lesbian perspective to be heard.

I understand that you receive threats around this issue – so do I. Male violence is a real and significant reality. Male violence fuels much of how this discussion takes place. Male violence demands capitulation.

I don’t want to capitulate. I also don’t want a sister in struggle to decide how Lesbians should discuss the negative impact of gender identity. Tough times demand tough measures. Being nice about it didn’t work. Being nice – standing alone – never works. You need all tactics to move a conversation.

I am grateful, though, that you have noticed this “war” that’s been raging. Help us end it. The concerns about gender identity raised by Lesbians are real and valid and deserve a wider audience.

Thank you, and be well,

Cathy Brennan

P.S. I am only responsible for Pretendbians. I am not responsible for any other blog you mentioned in your interview. 

How To Think Like A Radical Feminst – TRANS STYLE

Said in a very laydee like voice whist sipping herbal tea and wearing a modest dress.

Indi Edwards, I Salute You!

I am in a bad ass song.

I am guessing Indi Edwards made this, as she is the music producer.

Thanks Indi, I love it! Can you make it downloadable?

Also, “fuck your cis.” Can you work that into the remix?

Or is it Memorex?

Is it real?

So, If You React to Feminists Like You are “Mentally Ill,” Are We Supposed to Ignore that? Just Checking.

Do you really expect civil discourse after attacking trans women so viciously? How do you expect us to react we you call us mentally ill?

 

 socialistexan

Gender Identity Disorder is very much a mental illness. It causes people to:

— hate their own bodies up to and including a strong urge to cut off perfectly normal, perfectly healthy body parts, take dangerous hormones, etc.;

Ida E. Hammer

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More here and here and here and here.

Just so that we’re clear. You’re not a lesbian if…

Just so that we’re clear. You’re not a lesbian if…

1. You still got a man.
2. You still want a man.
3. You still sleeping with a man.
4. You waiting on a man.
5. You are a man.

Source.

RadFeminist Scorpion and Its Anti-Lesbian Agenda

GenderTrender recently highlighted RadFeminist Scorpion and its promotion of anti-lesbianism, most recently through lesbian FanBoy Tobi Hill Meyer!

But who are the “trans women” who routinely make shit up all day to oppress lesbians? (Like this nugget, where a demented “trans woman” named Raven – a heterosexual male in a relationship with a female – claims that I don’t care about rape). Let’s meet one!

Moar Real Talk

The words “homosexual” and “heterosexual” and “lesbian” have had meanings since loooooooonnng before these insufferable gender twits were born. Decades, centuries before they slipped out of their mommy’s uterus and took their first breath these words had MEANING. Now they think they can just FORCE  everyone else to adopt their derpy, gendery, sloppy, stooopid, faux-new meanings for these words. I think…NOT.

Same sex, different day

Same sex, different day

I think it’s ironic that so many “radscum” started out being very sympathetic to “trans women” — oftentimes for decades — before “trans women” themselves so viciously transgressed our boundaries, so abusively dismissed our concerns as women, that we were forced to see them for what they (as a group) actually are: entrenched male haters of women.

As a person who was best friends with a couple of gay transvestites down the hall in college, as a person who TOOK A BEATING and ended up in the ER when doing her best to stop a gay-bashing in progress against a small, delicate gay man, as a person who firmly believes that people should be able to be themselves regardless of cultural norms — as long as they’re not actually hurting others — it took a lot of abuse to open my eyes to the abject hatred some (most?) “trans women” have for natal women.

Now I recognize “trans feminism” for what it is: one more way for men to appropriate, re-direct and abuse women’s energy and power — towards their own ends, of course.

The trans cult fails Feminism 101

The trans cult fails Feminism 101

lezzbfriends: The only reason a lot of cis people think being called a “cis person” is bad, or harmful or wrong is because they are used to the privilege of just being seen as a “person” or even a “normal person” without their sex or gender or gender identity being an issue for them. You see, when you call them “cis” suddenly they are not just a person, but now they have to think about a gender identity. Suddenly they are no better than a Trans* person. And that scares the shit out of them.

magicpoppy: Under patriarchy, females are not considered “normal persons.”  The male body is considered to be the default human body.  No female bodied person, regardless of her race or class, has this privilege.  “Gender identity” is an issue for females because females never chose the feminine gender role.  The feminine gender role was invented by and most importantly is enforced by males.  It is not a privilege because it has never been voluntary for females, despite the fact that many trans women seek to leap into that feminine gender box.  We’ve spent our whole lives there.  Trans women don’t get to tell us that it’s a privilege to live in that box because it looks wonderful to them from the other sex.